Unspeakable Fears..

Of late, i've been wondering..

A cousin joined gangsterism.. He started to verbally abuse his parents on facebook. He went almost extreme, and added "Born to a failure, born to be irritating and annoying."

A friend asked, how are you going to protect your daughter and teach her what are rights and wrongs, can do or cannot do.. 

Sam's been making plenty of excuses for things he shouldn't have done, or for things he should do yet, not done.  How do i tell him to wake up because life isn't about looking for excuses. 

We have seen people bringing up fine, polite and brilliant kids who makes contributions to the society, yet, the nurturing process, we don't quite see or hear..  Have their mums been SAHMs for the kids while they are growing up? Is it really in the blood?  How?

I know my hubby dotes on me, and am really a princess in his eyes.. But, when it comes to the kids, he doesn't really gives me any clues on how to go about it.. 

Sometimes i wish hubby could speak to the boys like friends, but more often than not, i hear him screaming at them. I know it's not the he doesn't care, but, somehow, the method is just so wrong.. 

I fear he hits the kids cos he might use too much strength.. I fear the kids may think that hitting as a way of expressing they are angry.. I fear the kids will learn to shout at the other party like he does when they get mad. I fear they may think that by being louder than others means they have won the battle.. i fear i don't do enough for them.. i fear i teach them the wrong things.  I fear something i subconsciously do today might have a negative effect on the kids 10-20 years down the road.   i fear...

Till i have a conclusion..